Thoughts on life, leadership and the movement called the church by Brian C. Hughes, Senior Pastor

by Brian C. Hughes, Senior Pastor

Monday, March 8, 2010

How Could I Neglect Her?

I got to spend most of the day today with my favorite person on the planet. She's my best friend. She was my soul mate before the phrase was popular and cheesy. She's the smartest advisor I have, has an uncanny sense of intuition that is almost always right. She's fun. She's a great listener. She loves God and points me to Him. She's a great mom. She's one of the most effective leaders I've ever known. 22 years ago, she was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen...and she still is.

So why in the world would I spend 7 days a week working and no time with her week after week after week?! I don't know. We went out to lunch today and then to see a movie. We did some work, I confess, and much of our conversation was about the church. But we still got to have a good, ol' fashioned date. I absolutely love being around her. I had just forgotten.

Today, I was reminded just how must I missed her...and how much I'd missed the boat. Somewhere, we both got off track and gave in to the never-ending list of demands that come from leading a high-speed, growing, moving, building, reaching, experimenting, life changing church. Our church is more fun than anything I've ever done, but that doesn't mean much if I neglect my most precious gift in the process.

I'm going to fix that.

I told Susan today that I'd rather have her in my life than anything else. I mean that. I frankly feel a little hypocritical to tell people to work less and focus on their spouse and family when she and I work so much and neglect our family. Today was an awakening...an 'aha' moment for me and I am going to fix it.

Thank you, God, for allowing me to see where some important adjustments are needed.

3 comments:

Tommy and Emily Chandler said...

You guys are an amazing couple and such an inspiration to others...so glad you have each other:) Thank you both for all that you do for our church community - we love you both:)

Nette said...

It does get hard sometimes! You know we can relate! Thanks for the reminder and God bless you two!!

Jim Nevius said...

Thanks to the both of you. I think someone has told me the same thing in recent months about working too much....